Children and Life After Divorce

When parents divorce, they are often concerned about how to support the well-being of their children, both during and after the divorce. It is true that your family life will look quite a bit different after your divorce, but it can continue to be a source of strength and support for your children as you move into a new way of life together. It simply is a matter of planning in order to provide the right supportive structure for the children moving forward.

The parenting schedule is an important part of any divorce involving children. Your parenting plan can be set up so that it allows you and your former spouse to maintain the routines that have shaped your days as a family. When kids know that things like getting ready for bed or preparing for the school day will remain the same each day, whether they are at your house or the home of their other parent, they feel a sense of safety and security.

Also, keeping rules consistent between households provides children with extra stability. Children like to know what to expect and they are likely to feel at ease when they are in your home and the home of their other parent because they know what rules they must follow and what the likely outcome would be if they were to break a rule. If you need additional convincing that a discussion with your soon to be former spouse about household rules will be worth the effort, know that children are more likely to comply with household rules at both of your homes when the rules are similar.

One more thing that you can do to further support your children’s well-being as you move forward as a family after your divorce is to keep your interactions with your former spouse courteous and focused on doing what is best for the children. This is not always easy, but it is worth it because it is tangible evidence that you respect your children’s relationship with their other parent and are working to support that. When children witness that kind of respect, they develop a feeling of security from knowing that they are supported in maintaining a close relationship with both of their parents.  Always remember your children’s best interest first.

The Bronzino Law Firm: Helping Divorcing Parents Achieve their Parenting Goals

It can be difficult to predict how your divorce will affect your children, but there are things that you can do that will help them maintain their sense of security and being a part of a stable family. When parents divorce, there is a lot at stake, so it is important to work with an experienced New Jersey Family Law Attorney in order to achieve the results that benefit all parties, especially the children. The Bronzino Law Firm is located in Brick, New Jersey. We serve clients in Monmouth County, Ocean County, and the surrounding area. If you have questions about divorce in New Jersey, schedule a free consultation by calling us at (732) 812-3102.